I have been reading a lot of articles about “successful” people and there is one pattern that I found. This had me thinking how society has ingrained in us, over a period of time, the definition of success.
Success, like religion, should be personal. But over a period of time we have let it slip and made it more a herd mentality. It is no longer defined by us but defined by everyone around us. So, just like religion, the loudest and the strongest get to define success not just for themselves but for everyone else. Today, if you have the most money, most power, a big title, a big car, house you are successful! All the material things that everyone else can see defines our success, irrespective of the fact how much importance we pay to it.
For long now, I have been trying to break that mould for myself. It is not easy, coming from a judgemental country like mine, but keeping it in front of mind and writing such articles help! Success for me is what makes me happy or feel content. And everyone has to define it for themselves. There are no right or wrong answers!
I define my success as when I am at peace both in my external life and home life. I would not trade that for any amount of material things. I have friends who have defined their success as raising beautiful humans and others who have defined theirs as becoming the CEO of a corporation. Again, each on their own!
Our challenge (and mine too) is to break through the shackles of the society defined success measures and create our own — something that will help us lead a contented and fulfilling life. At the end of the day, this is the only one we have. So we should love it on our own terms rather than defined by the wider world!