What’s with all the questions about whether I am pregnant, asks Juhi Waadhwani
So, when are you getting pregnant?
Three long years of constant attack has forced me to share my personal experience with you all. I am sure lots of ladies out their can relate to my situation.
Yes, I am happily married for the last three years and I get this question every day from at least two people—“When are you going to have a baby?” or “Why haven’t you planned for it yet?”
I have always been socialising, attending parties or events but everything changed after three months of my marriage. Before I got married, people used to smile, look into my eyes while saying hello or gave me a hug but after three months everyone changed. I feel they just have eyes on my belly.
After three months people started noticing that I was putting on weight as most happily married people do. They thought it was pregnancy weight. They refuse to believe there can be some other reason behind it—happy weight perhaps? How about an underactive thyroid? Stress? Hormones?
If I had a heart burn, the diagnosis was pregnancy, a headache meant the same. Hasn’t anyone noticed that I am a human being and can have a sick day without being pregnant. I was once asked if I was pregnant on account of my greasy hair!
For heaven’s sake, isn’t a woman allowed to have greasy hair days without being interrogated on whether she is pregnant.
It’s not that I don’t want kids, nor have I stated that, it’s just that I don’t think I need to keep answering people about why I am the way I am. I just wanted to share my personal experience because I know there are a lot of women out there who are asked the same questions. Here’s a question for the question-askers out there: Are you going to look after my baby, or pay $15,000 a year for my baby’s educational fee?
Live and let live. Please.